My love affair with magazines began in Ms. Burghart’s first grade classroom. I looked forward to Fridays, when we took turns reading aloud from the Scholastic Weekly Reader, THE source for kid-friendly news and feature stories.
In third grade, I discovered Dynamite, a slick-covered mag featuring pop culture, games and contests. I acquired every issue, along with Encyclopedia Brown, Box Car Children and other paperbacks, from Scholastic book order forms.
By sixth grade, I’d discovered Tiger Beat. After reading the articles, I carefully pried back staples to release posters of Shaun Cassidy, Scott Biao, and Andy Gibb. A month was an eternity, waiting for the next issue to arrive.
In eighth grade, a more-worldly friend introduced me to her mom’s Cosmopolitan stash. This catapulted us way beyond pop culture and teen heartthrobs into what real women must do to look, smell and feel sexy. Sadly, Cosmo and similar magazines remained our guidebooks throughout high school.
I didn’t read much outside of textbooks during college, but once I graduated and got a place of my own, I inhaled all the checkout staples that promised to help me organize, decorate, cook, plant, bake, lose weight, and flatten my stomach. Marriage and family led to Parents Magazine and House Beautiful subscriptions, plus countless childcare and home decor catalogs.
Looking back, it really did go downhill after Dynamite.
Nearly every post-puberty magazine article I read told me I wasn’t good enough, and then offered guaranteed solutions to fix me. They set impossibly high standards in my mind for what constituted a perfect mate, career, home, meal, child…and a perfect me.
I’ve since replaced these magazines with only those that help me grow spiritually or intellectually. But recently, fashion and lifestyle magazines began appearing in our mailbox. (I suspect a daughter accepted some free offer while online shopping.)
In a moment of boredom, I grabbed the February issue of Better Homes & Gardens and read “At Home with Jessica Alba.” The teaser read, “She juggles several careers, nurtures a marriage, and together with husband Cash Warren is raising two daughters. Take a peek inside this eco-entrepreneur, model, and actress’ joyfully busy and surprisingly normal life.”
“My day starts early with yoga or spinning,” Jessica Alba says. Then it’s off to back-to-back meetings at the company she founded shortly after the birth of her first child. But she tries to be home for bedtime stories and some TV time with the hubby. She loves to cook healthy meals but confesses to having healthy food delivered when she just can’t do it herself.
Photos show a beautiful and perfectly put together Alba in a floor length dress, playing with her children in a family room artfully scattered with board games and puzzles, and a wall hanging that holds about four dozen organic herb plants. Another photo shows her lounging with her dogs. Her outfit and even her pets perfectly match the room décor.
You go, girlfriend. But BH&G editors, please don’t tell us she has a surprisingly normal life. Or if she does, your writers and photographers certainly didn’t capture it.
At least now, with the wisdom that comes with age, I can walk away from such articles feeling just fine about my family, my home, my career, and my beautifully imperfect, surprisingly normal life.